“Humble your power”

In the most recent couple of months, I have been asked why I bought a domain and generated a website of poetry, quotes and blogs. Was I bored recovering from surgery? Am I selling something? So today I decided to dig deeper into the deep. My purpose was to perpetuate deeper thought into simple situations. Sometimes the simplest thing we say can cause the biggest blessing or hurt. Thinking through things a little more can help us have better results from our actions.

How often does a difficult conversation with a loved one end with this exchange:

“I didn’t mean it like that.”

“Well, that’s what it sounded like to me.”

I’ve seen this happen, felt it happen, made it happen, and heard about it happening. It’s real.

It happens when we react rather than respond, and when we are stressed and don’t have/take time to taste our words before we feed them to someone else. The more comfortable we are with someone, the more freely the words spill from our mouths. (You know this is true).

Because when you care what someone thinks about you, what they say to you matters.

These are people you love or even just people you look up to. This can happen between a boss and employee, an athlete and coach, two significant others, sisters and brothers. A teacher and student, a parent and child.

How do we stop this if we don’t do it on purpose?

Allow me to offer a suggestion?

Know who these people are. Consider their struggle. Try to understand why your words mean so much. You are important. No matter who you are, there are people who consider you important. This gives you power to the vulnerable.

Know your power. Allow it to humble you. Exert it with care.

And when you mess up anyway, say I’m sorry.